My Youtube Channel

So, I have had a youtube channel in my early 20s in which I have posted funny sketches and song covers. Since then, I have deleted/made those videos private for reasons I….well, I just don’t like them lol.

As of Quarantine situation….I’ve been singing a lot more due to boredom. I even bought a ukelele to learn a new skill.

I thought maybe it would be a good idea to revive my old youtube channel and put content on there. So, I thought of sharing it with you guys! Hope y’all like and come visit me on there too! It’s scary at the thought I’d have some people view me singing, but hey it’s a start!!

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The Comeback

“Make the comeback stronger than your setback”

Lately, I’ve been talking to a few people with similar situations and I thought I’d post about it. It’s nearing the end of 2017 and I just want to impart some of my thoughts on how to handle failure, reoccuring mistakes, and feeling sorry for yourself and my approach to it.

Failure

I am the biggest critic of myself, I have self-doubts, and sometimes I let some of these negative opinions bother me. I also have my fair share on things that let me down. Things I thought would be my saving grace, whether it be financial success upon graduation, being in a stable career, and so on. If there’s one thing I learned from the amount of time I’ve had being 27 is that failure is what will lead you to your true calling and what you are meant for. If it didn’t work out better luck next time. Also, you don’t have to be 13, 27, or 52 to realize this. You can start to realize that failures are just a minor set back to what you are really destined to do right now as I tell you this.

Reoccuring mistakes

If you don’t see a problem, it won’t be solved. If you can’t admit to your own mistakes, you are also partly the problem and the solution (if you choose). I think sometimes we as people need to see that we are all imperfect and we all have a choice. We are imperfect in the way that we all make mistakes. I think sometimes the problem is we tend to fight or develop self-loathe because we want acceptance and love (which is all necessary). Despite all the things you hate about yourself there are many qualities you are and should aim to be. Know you are capable beyond belief to choose and that you deserve self-love and happiness.

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Sometimes we face conflicts with ourselves by comparing or wanting to be something we aren’t to fit in. I think thats when social media is bad. That’s when you need to reevaluate your friendships and your life. Here’s something you can try, if you’re a social media junky like me. Remember back in the day when we didn’t have Instagram or Facebook?

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Rip the band-aid and stop feeling sorry for yourself, you are braver than you think

This is a big issue. If you linger on the problem, you are just going around like a goldfish in a fishbowl. We all have struggles to deal with, but it’s the way we deal with these struggles that are most important. This is where I think experiencing new surroundings, becoming friends with people who have a different culture than you or younger/older than you, and meeting people from all walks of life is much needed and so important.  Whatever it is you are facing, you need to know that you are worth it, you deserve the best life has to offer, and you are not alone. Everything you feel is only human. Let all failures and mistakes make you stronger.

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INSPIRATION SPOTLIGHT:

Muniba Mazari
Muniba has faced adversity with such grace that it reminds us all to cultivate gratitude for the life we live and to stand tall and face our challenges. Sometimes we get lost in things we wish we were or had rather than see what we already have in front of us. She strives to show and encourage us to put our best self forward despite the things that may hinder us along the way. Hear her story below.

Click to see her story HERE

Welcome 2018 in this way. Make your comeback stronger than your setbacks.
“Don’t die before your death. Real happiness lies in gratitude”

Love always,

Bea

 

 

Overthinking

Hi, I haven’t posted in awhile and I apologize friends.

I am a Virgo and as much as I don’t believe in horoscopes, I know this much is true, that Virgos are over-thinkers. Kind of like that scene in Sponge-Bob when all the little Sponge-Bobs were running frantic in his firey brain tossing files and going crazy.

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It’s sometimes hard for me to communicate how I feel because my anxiety reminds me that if I mess it up, the person on the other end would judge me when in reality they probably don’t care as much as I would. It’s not that big of a deal.

Reality: IT’S NOT SERIOUS!

BRAIN: IT’S SO SERIOUS!

I’m sure I’m not the only one that said or did something and replayed that moment over and over thinking if I made the right decision.

Why am I talking about this? Well, my overthinking mind has led me to not asking all the questions I wanted to know because I’m thinking of how it’s going to sound. I think my problem for the most part is I’m always 10 steps ahead and I’m trying to live in the moment and I think over the years, I have gotten better at it. I’m not saying I don’t over think anymore, I do occasionally. However, I’ve learned a few things along the way like self-love.

I knew that I didn’t feel good, I knew I couldn’t sleep so I just tried to trust the process. I learned to train my mind to believe in the timing of my life. I don’t think there’s really any formula to completely rid of things we want to change in our lives unless we fully admit things about ourselves we want to change and how willing you are to change it. It really is just will and mind power. In other words, as Jay-Z says to speak things into existence.

I learned that if it wasn’t now, another thing will come along that’s better. Missed opportunities are pieces of the puzzle that lead you to what you are destined for. I’ve learned that comparisons won’t change your current situation, so stop worrying and start creating a life you want for yourself.

Some of the things that helped me stop overthinking:

  1. Journal/blogging -writing out my problems or just putting thoughts into words helped me see things clearly and put my mind into perspective of what’s truly important
  2. Time away from people -I’m an ambivert and as much as I love company and people, I love quiet me time to help me re-energize so I can talk to people again.
  3. De-Cluttering -throwing away excess and keeping things I need rather than have them all around me, helped clear my mind to what truly matters to me
  4. Cultivating Gratitude -being grateful everyday for things I have rather than not have put my mind at ease instead of worry about things

 

4 Ways To Wear An Ascot

When I worked at Uniqlo everytime I wore an ascot a customer would approach and ask me how it’s worn. My answer usually is it really depends on the outfit. I usually just pair mine with a round neck knit top, a half buttoned up blouse, or an off-shoulder top.

I love ascots/scarves because I don’t normally wear accessories often. I think these are a great way to change the look of an outfit.

Here are 4 ways I like to wear mine:

1) Like a tie or as my coworkers used to call it the “flight attendant look”

I like to do this style when I’m wearing a round neck sweater a basic white t-shirt and some high-waisted jeans.

2) Doubled and tied to the side

I wear this look when I wear an over-sized white button up shirt that’s half way buttoned or when I wear this off-shoulder top

3) A bow

This look is pretty versatile but I mostly wear it with off-shoulder tops

4) Headband

The most versatile of all. I wear this look when I wear mock necks or turtle necks, or when my hair is looking a mess that day