“Make the comeback stronger than your setback”
Lately, I’ve been talking to a few people with similar situations and I thought I’d post about it. It’s nearing the end of 2017 and I just want to impart some of my thoughts on how to handle failure, reoccuring mistakes, and feeling sorry for yourself and my approach to it.
I am the biggest critic of myself, I have self-doubts, and sometimes I let some of these negative opinions bother me. I also have my fair share on things that let me down. Things I thought would be my saving grace, whether it be financial success upon graduation, being in a stable career, and so on. If there’s one thing I learned from the amount of time I’ve had being 27 is that failure is what will lead you to your true calling and what you are meant for. If it didn’t work out better luck next time. Also, you don’t have to be 13, 27, or 52 to realize this. You can start to realize that failures are just a minor set back to what you are really destined to do right now as I tell you this.
If you don’t see a problem, it won’t be solved. If you can’t admit to your own mistakes, you are also partly the problem and the solution (if you choose). I think sometimes we as people need to see that we are all imperfect and we all have a choice. We are imperfect in the way that we all make mistakes. I think sometimes the problem is we tend to fight or develop self-loathe because we want acceptance and love (which is all necessary). Despite all the things you hate about yourself there are many qualities you are and should aim to be. Know you are capable beyond belief to choose and that you deserve self-love and happiness.
Sometimes we face conflicts with ourselves by comparing or wanting to be something we aren’t to fit in. I think thats when social media is bad. That’s when you need to reevaluate your friendships and your life. Here’s something you can try, if you’re a social media junky like me. Remember back in the day when we didn’t have Instagram or Facebook?
Rip the band-aid and stop feeling sorry for yourself, you are braver than you think
This is a big issue. If you linger on the problem, you are just going around like a goldfish in a fishbowl. We all have struggles to deal with, but it’s the way we deal with these struggles that are most important. This is where I think experiencing new surroundings, becoming friends with people who have a different culture than you or younger/older than you, and meeting people from all walks of life is much needed and so important. Whatever it is you are facing, you need to know that you are worth it, you deserve the best life has to offer, and you are not alone. Everything you feel is only human. Let all failures and mistakes make you stronger.
Muniba has faced adversity with such grace that it reminds us all to cultivate gratitude for the life we live and to stand tall and face our challenges. Sometimes we get lost in things we wish we were or had rather than see what we already have in front of us. She strives to show and encourage us to put our best self forward despite the things that may hinder us along the way. Hear her story below.
Welcome 2018 in this way. Make your comeback stronger than your setbacks.
“Don’t die before your death. Real happiness lies in gratitude”