Ghost Boy

(This was a previous blog I re-posted because this may be relevant/helpful to some of you at some point or another)

Note to whoever reads this: you will find someone, someone who deserves your attention, who will care for you, and be there for you. If you don’t have it or can’t find it now, focus on your self, fill yourself with love by surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals, ones who will challenge and bring the best in you. Self-love is most important, it outweighs the love that people can’t give you. Once we fully feel whole within ourselves, I promise you being with another person is ten times better. If you are in a relationship, find time to yourself and continue to build your own dreams and aspirations. You can still be in a relationship and stay true to your goals, but communicating is so important. When your with someone constantly, it’s easy to get lost and end up blending/molding into the same person.

I am currently in a happy healthy relationship and this was a post that was created prior to that. I am thankful for these people because if it weren’t for these guys, I wouldn’t have found peace in myself and found the man I had hoped for and more without even trying.

If you have some questions for me or want to talk about stuff, leave me a comment or email me at thebeatriceisabel@gmail.com! I would love to answer your questions.


What is it with these guys? You know the type that would sweep you off your feet one minute and then the next minute they drop you to the ground and shut the door like you never saw it coming.

Do you recognize this type of guy/girl? I really don’t know what type of impression I leave guys. Do I read “she’s definitely a one-night stand” type of girl? I’m sorry, but that’s not who I am. If by wooing me in a nice fancy restaurant, taking me to a nice location at sunset, and talking about future endeavors with me will get you laid…I don’t think so buddy!

I’m tired of all these guys that think they can give you this amazing time to expect a prize in return. I am not your token prize, dude! If it’s not that, they ghost you and expect you to pretend like nothing happened. Why do they do this you asked? So they can keep coming back to you whenever. They go on about how they miss you or ask you how your day was, but it’s basically their way of saying “I’m still here!”

See back then, I would’ve accepted all this bullshit unwillingly…because I was lonely (vulnerable), insecure, too nice, and foolish. However, these days I don’t tolerate people who just come back in my life whenever they want and think it’s fine to do so.

Listen, if you are experiencing the same situation…I recommend the ctrl alt delete method/ block/delete them! No offense to him/her and whatever their going through, but you don’t deserve this in your life. You need distance from these type of people. You will just end up feeling like you could change things, maybe they’ll change, but for the most part I don’t want to entertain something with false hope.

If they ghost you, what makes them think they can just run back to you like nothings wrong. All I have to say to these guys is, “honey, you done fucked up home slice…pack your bags your not staying in mi casa tonight.”

Save yourself the hurt, stop questioning yourself as to why he did this, and just remove him from your life. You will be better in the long run. Let me know your thoughts! xx

 

 

Lifestyle Edit

I’m doing this new thing. After realizing I own a lot of random shit I acquired over the years thanks to capitalism and mass consumption. I start to evaluate all the clutter in my house. Do I really need 10 pairs of jeans in the same colour? Do I need all the magazines from years ago under my bed? Do I need that random medium sized box filled with junk in my closet or my bags from 2014 that I never use anymore?

I recently watched the documentary Minimalism on Netflix, I highly recommend it.  It gave me a lot of insight about all the clutter we consume on a daily basis, the amount of money we spend on all the useless junk that help us fill voids in our life that we feel we lack.

I then realized that I consume way too much stuff. I used to buy shirts I probably already owned just because I was going to an event or I just liked the feeling of new things or buying shoes I don’t need. I would spend money on services like lash extensions or get my hair done just because I felt like it. There was always a need to spend money I didn’t even have. I don’t know where I acquired this habit, it sort of manifested itself and I knew I had to do something about it quick.

I should have known better and instead of beating myself up about it, I devised de-cluttering my room first. I spent half the day listening to Michael Jackson’s greatest hits while noticing this giant pile of clothing that occupied most of my room.

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It was pretty ridiculous to see how much clothes I never even wore or things I stopped wearing years ago stuffed in a tiny closet. I always found myself wearing the same pair of jeans, same shirts, and sweaters. So once I removed all the stuff I didn’t wear at all, my room looked way freer and more organized.

I was shocked to see the amount of stuff that would stress me out, make me feel disorganized, left me feeling clean and orderly.

All two pairs of the jeans I wore constantly were in one side, a couple dress shirts, a few casual shirts to match all my bottoms, and coats I wore daily. It made it so much easier to find the things I need for the day.

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I also started this new budgeting system called the Envelope system I found on Pinterest created by Dave Ramsey. I’ve been experimenting for a month now and I might do a blog post on how it’s working out for me, but so far I think this is working for me in terms of giving me a clear picture of prioritizing all the necessities (i.e. groceries, credit card bills, phone bills, bus pass, house bills, loan), 30 percent goes to wants/personal expenses, 20 percent goes to savings and repayments of debt.

So far, I really like seeing a clear picture of what I need to do and feel like I have more breathing room in terms of enjoying life with these little lifestyle changes.  I will update for future lifestyle edits. By clearing my space of some material things I don’t need I definitely see some improvement in terms of appreciating all the important things I do own and it helps me decide if I really need something before making a big purchase.