Grounding during Covid-19

A few weeks back I wrote how I felt about Quarantine on Facebook. As I have reopened my blog site, I decided to share it here as I wanted to document this crazy time period of life to look back on.

This social distancing, quarantine life sucks for most of us and worse for those who cannot control their environment/living situation. However, through this experience I do believe that life really comes full circle. A sign that earth has had enough of people, it’s had enough of people neglecting each other, for lack of regard to our ecosystem, it’s had enough of people starting wars with each other. Now with this virus, streets are empty with no humans in sight. I’ve seen pictures across the world of animals roaming streets, no pollution because less cars on the roads…my point is let’s all turn this horrible situation into something we can overcome together practicing social distancing and good hygiene, and enjoy the simple things in life.

Let the world heal and let’s heal ourselves too. Love you and take care! Check up on your friends and family with a simple call or FaceTime! we will be alright!

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(This was a previous blog I re-posted because this may be relevant/helpful to some of you at some point or another)

Note to whoever reads this: you will find someone, someone who deserves your attention, who will care for you, and be there for you. If you don’t have it or can’t find it now, focus on your self, fill yourself with love by surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals, ones who will challenge and bring the best in you. Self-love is most important, it outweighs the love that people can’t give you. Once we fully feel whole within ourselves, I promise you being with another person is ten times better. If you are in a relationship, find time to yourself and continue to build your own dreams and aspirations. You can still be in a relationship and stay true to your goals, but communicating is so important. When your with someone constantly, it’s easy to get lost and end up blending/molding into the same person.

I am currently in a happy healthy relationship and this was a post that was created prior to that. I am thankful for these people because if it weren’t for these guys, I wouldn’t have found peace in myself and found the man I had hoped for and more without even trying.

If you have some questions for me or want to talk about stuff, leave me a comment or email me at thebeatriceisabel@gmail.com! I would love to answer your questions.


What is it with these guys? You know the type that would sweep you off your feet one minute and then the next minute they drop you to the ground and shut the door like you never saw it coming.

Do you recognize this type of guy/girl? I really don’t know what type of impression I leave guys. Do I read “she’s definitely a one-night stand” type of girl? I’m sorry, but that’s not who I am. If by wooing me in a nice fancy restaurant, taking me to a nice location at sunset, and talking about future endeavors with me will get you laid…I don’t think so buddy!

I’m tired of all these guys that think they can give you this amazing time to expect a prize in return. I am not your token prize, dude! If it’s not that, they ghost you and expect you to pretend like nothing happened. Why do they do this you asked? So they can keep coming back to you whenever. They go on about how they miss you or ask you how your day was, but it’s basically their way of saying “I’m still here!”

See back then, I would’ve accepted all this bullshit unwillingly…because I was lonely (vulnerable), insecure, too nice, and foolish. However, these days I don’t tolerate people who just come back in my life whenever they want and think it’s fine to do so.

Listen, if you are experiencing the same situation…I recommend the ctrl alt delete method/ block/delete them! No offense to him/her and whatever their going through, but you don’t deserve this in your life. You need distance from these type of people. You will just end up feeling like you could change things, maybe they’ll change, but for the most part I don’t want to entertain something with false hope.

If they ghost you, what makes them think they can just run back to you like nothings wrong. All I have to say to these guys is, “honey, you done fucked up home slice…pack your bags your not staying in mi casa tonight.”

Save yourself the hurt, stop questioning yourself as to why he did this, and just remove him from your life. You will be better in the long run. Let me know your thoughts! xx

 

 

The Comeback

“Make the comeback stronger than your setback”

Lately, I’ve been talking to a few people with similar situations and I thought I’d post about it. It’s nearing the end of 2017 and I just want to impart some of my thoughts on how to handle failure, reoccuring mistakes, and feeling sorry for yourself and my approach to it.

Failure

I am the biggest critic of myself, I have self-doubts, and sometimes I let some of these negative opinions bother me. I also have my fair share on things that let me down. Things I thought would be my saving grace, whether it be financial success upon graduation, being in a stable career, and so on. If there’s one thing I learned from the amount of time I’ve had being 27 is that failure is what will lead you to your true calling and what you are meant for. If it didn’t work out better luck next time. Also, you don’t have to be 13, 27, or 52 to realize this. You can start to realize that failures are just a minor set back to what you are really destined to do right now as I tell you this.

Reoccuring mistakes

If you don’t see a problem, it won’t be solved. If you can’t admit to your own mistakes, you are also partly the problem and the solution (if you choose). I think sometimes we as people need to see that we are all imperfect and we all have a choice. We are imperfect in the way that we all make mistakes. I think sometimes the problem is we tend to fight or develop self-loathe because we want acceptance and love (which is all necessary). Despite all the things you hate about yourself there are many qualities you are and should aim to be. Know you are capable beyond belief to choose and that you deserve self-love and happiness.

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Sometimes we face conflicts with ourselves by comparing or wanting to be something we aren’t to fit in. I think thats when social media is bad. That’s when you need to reevaluate your friendships and your life. Here’s something you can try, if you’re a social media junky like me. Remember back in the day when we didn’t have Instagram or Facebook?

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Rip the band-aid and stop feeling sorry for yourself, you are braver than you think

This is a big issue. If you linger on the problem, you are just going around like a goldfish in a fishbowl. We all have struggles to deal with, but it’s the way we deal with these struggles that are most important. This is where I think experiencing new surroundings, becoming friends with people who have a different culture than you or younger/older than you, and meeting people from all walks of life is much needed and so important.  Whatever it is you are facing, you need to know that you are worth it, you deserve the best life has to offer, and you are not alone. Everything you feel is only human. Let all failures and mistakes make you stronger.

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INSPIRATION SPOTLIGHT:

Muniba Mazari
Muniba has faced adversity with such grace that it reminds us all to cultivate gratitude for the life we live and to stand tall and face our challenges. Sometimes we get lost in things we wish we were or had rather than see what we already have in front of us. She strives to show and encourage us to put our best self forward despite the things that may hinder us along the way. Hear her story below.

Click to see her story HERE

Welcome 2018 in this way. Make your comeback stronger than your setbacks.
“Don’t die before your death. Real happiness lies in gratitude”

Love always,

Bea

 

 

09.17.90

Hi, today marks the 27 years I’ve been on this earth

I was never a fan of throwing birthday parties. I liked going to them, but never really liked the work that went behind throwing one. I think I liked them less as I got older because I knew people couldn’t show up and everyone is on a different schedule. Also, I hated the process of whether to do it at home or outside. If I did it at home, I had to buy decor, set up, prepare food, host, and clean up after. If I did it outside, I had to see what places would be good for a group of friends to go and if there are any places I can book near or on my birthday.

Every year, I did a small thing with just my family. No clubs or debuts (traditional Filipino version of a Quinceañera), no big celebration ever. Boring…I know. I remember Grade 3, I invited my entire class and only one girl came and ever since I just liked having intimate birthday settings. Sounds pretty pathetic, so this year I wanted to change that a bit and get out of my comfort zone.

I reserved a Mexican restaurant Wednesday night and this place that rents out ping pong tables for a group of my friends. Should be fun, but I don’t really know why I’ve been stressing about it. I have this dire need to please people! It’s ridiculous and I shouldn’t feel this way ever. I should just enjoy my birthday with people I like to hang out with. I always think they might think it’s lame. Hosting and entertaining is not really my specialty, so this is new territory.

I am however pretty proud of myself that I actually got the courage to do something out of the ordinary and invite people to my party. I’m pretty nervous and excited. I’ll be sure to post pictures of the event the day after. I’ll let you guys know how it goes.

Here’s me on my 1st birthday party and just like getting super drunk on your 19th birthday….I don’t remember any of it.


How does it feel to be 27?

Shhhhhh….Old. My 20s have been such an interesting time period, well I say this because I don’t quite remember my pubescent years besides hideous fashion choices and poor taste in guys (frosted tips were never a good look).

Any advice?

If you are reading this under the age of 20 or in your 20s, just note that no one is the perfect adult. There is no manual for adulthood, you just wing it…like I did most of my high school days. There are moments you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom and you can’t get out, don’t worry you will get out. Everything just takes time and no one will ever be the perfect adult. Social media can be your enemy at times because people may seem to have their life together and you don’t, that’s not true.

Don’t compare your beginnings to someone else’s middle.

I am the expert at failing things, I fail because I do stuff. I say you should fail and anyone that tells you that failing is wrong, is Satan LOL. When you fail you get better in life and you become stronger. Take risks as cliche as that sounds. Everything takes time and patience. I’ve mentioned in my previous blog post that you should never settle until you’ve accomplished all the things you wanted to do in life. Ever! People will tell you that hobbies can never turn into careers, don’t listen. These days anything can turn into a career with proper execution. Don’t let the doubters kill your dreams and don’t let your own doubt kill your dreams.

Never stop doing what you love and cultivate gratitude. ❤